I thought it might be fun to document the first things we got for our baby, and hopefully it will be helpful for you, whether you're an expecting parent or looking to buy gifts for new parents. After all, baby stuff can be super overwhelming as there are countless brands, colors, materials, etc., all for the same thing (i.e., burp cloths. I hate shopping for burp cloths.)
Some Fun Baby Stuff We Registered For
When I started putting our registry together, I added anything and everything that I saw mom friends using without truly understanding how to use them or what they were for. I just kept adding and adding to the registry like a contestant on a weird grocery shopping competition show furiously throwing boxes of cereal into their cart. At one point I had over 200 items on our registry. I thought that might overwhelm friends and family, so I tried to narrow it down. Looking at trusted blogs (the ones that had a similar lifestyle as me, like living in a warmer climate) and some YouTube videos was super helpful. I found this video especially helpful since she goes through a lot of products and explains how she uses them with her baby.
Some Baby Essentials We Registered For
Kelvin and I are very grateful and touched by our friends' and families' generosity in their gift giving. We feel really loved, cared for, and provided for. It's not easy to feel somewhat dependent on others' generosity, but the baby bill racks up fast! At one point in the middle of baby showers and wrapping up my job before maternity leave, I realized that I had some unhelpful expectations with regard to receiving and buying baby stuff. This was just my experience, but here's what I learned:
1. You do not need all the things!
2. Ultimately, it doesn't matter what you get. You're not going to ruin your baby's life by getting or not getting certain things. Babies are resilient, and they have a 100% chance of surviving without a butt wipe warmer. Still, there's nothing wrong with getting one if you really want one. Keeping this in mind has helped my grabby hands stay still while walking through the baby section at Target. Sometimes.
3. Several people who give you baby gifts will not even peek at your baby registry. This is okay! It doesn't mean that they don't care enough to do so.
4. The gifts that you receive that are not on your registry may not come with a gift receipt or any indication of which store they came from, so keep it (hello, re-gifting), donate it, or download one of those apps that shows you all the places it could have come from and try to return it (I tried ShopSavvy.) The only thing is that you might have to go to a few different stores until you find the place where it was purchased, and some places have really crappy return policies without a receipt, even if it was a gift.
4. Many people prefer to buy fun baby stuff like clothes and stuffed animals rather than the essentials like butt cream or baby wipes. Nothing wrong with that, I just thought I would've gotten all the super mom products that worked wonders for other babes, but I don't think there's any one baby product that's universal for all babies anyway (see #7.)
5. It's okay to wait and see if you'll actually need something until after baby is born. Amazon, people! You'll just want to make sure you have the absolute essentials right away like a place for baby to sleep, diapers, wipes, etc.
6. Speaking of Amazon, Amazon Prime! Worth it.
7. Ultimately, baby decides what baby likes, so even though you spent a lot of money on that baby swing, it doesn't mean they'll put on a fake smile for you and pretend to like it.
Welp, our baby is nice and cozy in ma' belly and oblivious to the fact that he's past his due date, so I'm planning to do an update post in a few months on which products worked and which ones didn't. Stay tuned!